In the first stages of wedding planning, couples ask their closest friends and family members to support them on their big day. But deciding who to have as your bridesmaids and groomsmen can feel like a dramatic process. Brides and grooms often have questions about who to choose as attendants without hurting feelings or backing themselves into a corner with obligations.
For couples wondering who and how to ask, here are some tips and guidelines for choosing the right wedding attendants for your big day.
How Many Is Enough?
If you aren’t sure where to start, consider the projected size and style of your wedding first. Large affairs traditionally have bigger bridal parties, while simple and small weddings may have fewer. However, there are definitely no hard and fast rules that you must follow. What is primarily important is that you choose the people who care about you and your marriage, and who you want to share life with.
Who Can I Ask?
When it comes to looking for attendants, couples can choose between high-school BFFs, college roommates, siblings, and even colleagues. Modern weddings have started a growing trend of asking friends of the opposite sex to stand up next to brides and grooms at the altar. Brides can ask their close guy friends or brothers to be men of honor or bride’s men, while grooms can have their sisters or close gal pals as groom’s ladies or even best women.
Who Should I Ask?
As you narrow down your list, it is important to make family a priority. This also means considering siblings in-law. If you are having trouble deciding between your brother and best friend as the best man, it is probably safest to go with your brother. For brides who must choose between a sibling and a friend, pick a maid and a matron of honor or two maids of honor.
Come Fly with Me
Couples planning a destination wedding have new details to think about. Destination weddings have grown in popularity as a way to cut down guest lists and simplify your nuptials by taking them to a beach in Aruba or an Italian villa. But who you ask to fly all the way to the altar depends on your destination.
When asking attendants to travel long distance for your wedding, make sure that you provide them with a graceful way to decline. Of course they will want to come with you, but the expense of travel and time off from work or away from family just might not be possible. For friends and family who can’t make it, be sure to include them in a special way. Perhaps even host a casual reception to celebrate with them when you return.
Thanks for Helping Me Say, “I do”
When it is all said and done, you will hopefully have rounded up a group of the coolest people you know to support you throughout the engagement, the wedding day, and the rest of your marriage. Now it’s time to thank them with equally cool gifts.
Traditionally, these tokens of your appreciation are handed out at the rehearsal dinner. While gifts don’t have to cost an arm and a leg, you should take into account that your attendants have spent time and funds planning bridal showers, bachelor and bachelorette parties, purchasing outfits, and perhaps even flying into town for your big day. Personalized gifts can be a great way to show your favorite guys and gals how special they are to both of you.
With these tips in mind, you should have no problem finding the right people to stand up next to you on your wedding day.
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Jessica Socheski is a writer and social media nut who loves all things weddings. You can connect with her on Google+.