Asking Attendants: How to Find the Right Wedding Party

Wedding Day Preparations

Asking Attendants

In the first stages of wedding planning, couples ask their closest friends and family members to support them on their big day. But deciding who to have as your bridesmaids and groomsmen can feel like a dramatic process. Brides and grooms often have questions about who to choose as attendants without hurting feelings or backing themselves into a corner with obligations.
For couples wondering who and how to ask, here are some tips and guidelines for choosing the right wedding attendants for your big day.

How Many Is Enough?
If you aren’t sure where to start, consider the projected size and style of your wedding first. Large affairs traditionally have bigger bridal parties, while simple and small weddings may have fewer. However, there are definitely no hard and fast rules that you must follow. What is primarily important is that you choose the people who care about you and your marriage, and who you want to share life with.

Who Can I Ask?
When it comes to looking for attendants, couples can choose between high-school BFFs, college roommates, siblings, and even colleagues. Modern weddings have started a growing trend of asking friends of the opposite sex to stand up next to brides and grooms at the altar. Brides can ask their close guy friends or brothers to be men of honor or bride’s men, while grooms can have their sisters or close gal pals as groom’s ladies or even best women.

Who Should I Ask?
As you narrow down your list, it is important to make family a priority. This also means considering siblings in-law. If you are having trouble deciding between your brother and best friend as the best man, it is probably safest to go with your brother. For brides who must choose between a sibling and a friend, pick a maid and a matron of honor or two maids of honor.

Come Fly with Me
Couples planning a destination wedding have new details to think about. Destination weddings have grown in popularity as a way to cut down guest lists and simplify your nuptials by taking them to a beach in Aruba or an Italian villa. But who you ask to fly all the way to the altar depends on your destination.
When asking attendants to travel long distance for your wedding, make sure that you provide them with a graceful way to decline. Of course they will want to come with you, but the expense of travel and time off from work or away from family just might not be possible. For friends and family who can’t make it, be sure to include them in a special way. Perhaps even host a casual reception to celebrate with them when you return.

Thanks for Helping Me Say, “I do”
When it is all said and done, you will hopefully have rounded up a group of the coolest people you know to support you throughout the engagement, the wedding day, and the rest of your marriage. Now it’s time to thank them with equally cool gifts.
Traditionally, these tokens of your appreciation are handed out at the rehearsal dinner. While gifts don’t have to cost an arm and a leg, you should take into account that your attendants have spent time and funds planning bridal showers, bachelor and bachelorette parties, purchasing outfits, and perhaps even flying into town for your big day. Personalized gifts can be a great way to show your favorite guys and gals how special they are to both of you.
With these tips in mind, you should have no problem finding the right people to stand up next to you on your wedding day.

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Jessica Socheski is a writer and social media nut who loves all things weddings. You can connect with her on Google+.

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Featured Vendor: AVR Photography & Video

Wedding Day Preparations

Photo by AVR

Established in 1986, AVR Photography & Video is a full-time photography studio specializing in the wedding industry. AVR is truly a one-stop shop, covering your entire wedding day with photography, videography, DJ, photo booth, and up lighting.

Led by owner Paul Aronian, AVR’s experienced wedding team is there to cover your special day and can work with virtually any style of photography, including photo candids, photo journalism, portraiture, and more. Their services don’t just stop at weddings, either. As a full-time photography studio, they are also available to photograph high-school seniors, families, kids, head shots, portfolios, sporting events, and more.

You can visit AVR throughout the year at bridal shows and events in Boston, Cape Cod, Connecticut, Rhode Island, New Hampshire, and many more. Stop by their booth to view video demos and look through their unbelievably priced wedding albums. AVR has the ability to fit YOUR budget. For more information, call, e-mail, visit their website, or make an appointment to stop into their Chelmsford, MA studio.

AVR Photography& Video

92 Chelmsford St

Chelmsford Ma

(978) 250-8117


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Long and Lovely: A round-up of long-sleeved wedding gowns

Wedding Day Preparations

Most brides aren’t afraid to show a little skin on their wedding day, so it’s no wonder that the majority of wedding dresses out there are strapless and sleeveless. Sure, shoulder-baring dresses are classic, elegant, and sexy, but who says long sleeves can’t be, too? Here’s a roundup of some truly gorgeous long-sleeved dresses:

 elie saab

“Crux” gown, Elie by Elie Saab


Claire Gown

“Claire” gown, Ruche


“Harper” gown, Amsale


Galina Signature

3/4 Sleeve Lace Trumpet Gown with Godet Skirt, Galina Signature



“Heirloom” gown, Monique Lhullier



“Lia” gown, Catherine Deane for BHLDN



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Featured Vendor: Complimentary Design

The Invitations

Complimentary Design

What was once a dream officially became a reality when Carla Patricio Amarelo established Complementary Design in January 2012. It all began with a wedding invitation Carla designed for her own wedding.
“After years of creating paper goods for friends and family, the feedback I received from my own wedding invitation really sparked inspiration in me and that was when I decided to take my talents seriously, even though I wasn’t entirely sure where the adventure would take me,” says Carla. “My main goal was to design wedding stationary that would make the impression brides were looking for; capturing what their wedding day was all about.”

Complimentary Design Blue Invite

With that goal in mind, choosing a name was a challenge since being unique and staying true to herself was Carla’s priority. “I am Portuguese, love chocolate, dachshunds, and the color purple. Purple and Amarelo (meaning yellow in Portuguese) were my wedding colors and that was when I realized, these perfect ‘complementary’ colors have made sense in my life in every aspect.”

Complementary Design is a fully functional home-based business, focusing on uniquely designed and handcrafted wedding stationary; offering nothing but high quality designs, ink, paper, and construction.
All products available are based on the latest wedding trends, however, custom designs are available for the couple that knows exactly what they want or has a specific theme. The complete stationary product line includes menus, table numbers, ceremony programs, signs, etc. Positive and friendly customer service, quick turn-around times, and great quality products along with professional assembly services are some of Complementary Designs strengths.

With experience in the design field, as well as a Bachelor’s degree in Fine Art from Rhode Island College, Carla is confident that Complementary Design is the best decision she has made with her career and loves to watch her business grow. “My love for color, trends, and seeking inspiration in the every day has led me to express my creativity in a rewarding direction and in a manner that I find freeing.”

Much of Complementary Design’s success can be attributed to Carla’s husband and biggest fan, Gualter Amarelo. “Without his help I would still be treating my talent like a hobby rather than a profession.”
Feel free to contact Complementary Design with questions, comments or inquiries any time. Design consultations are available by appointment only.

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Featured Vendor, September 2013: Wedding DJ Specialist, Brian Fligg

Wedding Music

Brian Fligg Event


Wedding DJ Specialist Brian Fligg has been solely focused on personalized wedding reception entertainment since 1995. Brian got his start after attending a few weddings as a guest and loving the vibe, but feeling like there could be, and should be more.

Fast forward to the 21st century and reliability of computer technology. With 15 years in the biz, Brian Fligg now utilizes tech skills that most DJs can’t even begin to comprehend. Uplighting that comes to life, custom audio and video edits, custom animated 3D graphics, personalized photo booths, and the ability actually beat mix songs all come together to build a reception that’s special for each couple. Get a sneak peak inside some of these events by watching Brian’s videos at

Brian Fligg

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